Self-Care Skills for 9-11 year olds

Jan 8
2 min read

As children grow, their self-care skills develop alongside their independence, confidence, and sense of responsibility. Between the ages of 9 and 11, many children are moving into upper primary school years and are capable of taking on more responsibility for their daily routines. Supporting young people to practice self-care routines not only prepares them for adolescence but also helps with executive functioning, organisation, and self-esteem.

Many of our 9-11 year olds are working towards the following:

Personal Hygiene

Showering or bathing independently, including washing hair.
Applying deodorant daily.
Brushing and flossing teeth without reminders.
Combing or styling their hair.
Changing clothes daily, and choosing weather-appropriate outfits.

Eating & Nutrition

Preparing simple meals (e.g., making toast, cereal, sandwiches).
Packing their own school lunch with some guidance.
Pouring drinks and using kitchen tools safely under supervision.
Understanding the importance of healthy food choices.

Daily Routines

Waking up with an alarm and beginning their morning routine.
Organising their school bag and belongings.
Keeping their bedroom tidy
Following a bedtime routine, including turning off devices.

Household Contributions

Taking responsibility for regular chores (setting the table, putting laundry away, helping with dishes).
Vacuuming, wiping surfaces, or helping with recycling/garbage.
Looking after pets with reminders (feeding, brushing, walking with an adult).

Social & Emotional Self-Care

Recognising when they need a break or quiet time.
Using basic coping strategies for frustration or stress (deep breaths, journaling, movement breaks).
Developing friendships and practising kindness and empathy.
Asking for help when something feels too difficult.

Helping children aged 9–11 develop self-care skills sets the stage for independence, confidence, and resilience. Using strategies like step-by-step guidance, visual schedules, and positive reinforcement, children can build routines for hygiene, daily tasks, nutrition, and social-emotional wellbeing. With consistent support, these skills become habits that prepare them for the challenges of adolescence and everyday life.

Jordan Dunn - Occupational Therapist at Kids Inspired